"Act Before You're Ready" - Robert Greene, from the DeathGround Strategy in his best-selling book 33 Strategies of War
"Knowledge is Power Only When Applied" - Wise Proverb
The other day, I went to the cemetery to visit my grandmother's grave. It's been a long time since she passed away, 9 years to be exact. She was my grandmother by blood from my father's side. She is pure Chinese.
It's actually odd that I missed her and went to where she lay in order to reminisce the times we've been together. Why is it odd you might ask? That's because when she was still living, I hated her. The last thing I wanted to be was near her, and I wanted to get away from her everytime she is with the family as much as possible.
A lot of people hated her too. She had a lot of "apparent" bad qualities. She kept on cussing and swearing too much. She was too strict to our workers. She yelled too much. She was loud. She was tactless... it was difficult to calm her down and keep her mouth shut. One wrong move with her and she'd cussed at you so bad that you'd think you've committed a capital offense. It seemed as if she always wanted to pick a fight with everybody. In short, she was a pain in the ear, literally and figuratively, whenever she was in the vicinity. She'd make Honorable Senator Miriam Defensor-Santiago look and sound like a demure librarian in a law school library.
Of all her grandchildren, I'm the one who hated her guts the most. Paradoxically, I was her favorite grandchild. Out of more than 20 grandchildren that she had, why do I have to be her favorite? That strikes me and puzzles me, and I hated that fact too.
When she finally passed away, honestly, I didn't feel depressed. In fact, I felt relieved that she was gone. Of course I was sad but not because she was dead but rather, because my father was sad, and so were my uncles and aunties from my father's side too (even though they hated her when she was living too).
However, after a couple of years, I began to miss her, and to feel depressed that she was gone. I'd regretted saying bad words to her, and doing bad things to her. "Bad things" just usually involve me trying to get away from her any chance that I get. I regretted not having spent enough time with her to get to know her. If she was living now, I know I can handle her now. Now I know... I was just an awkward kid back then, with such a low level of social intelligence and intuition that I didn't have the capability to deal with her.
Then, I started to miss the good times that we spent together. I started to reminisce the good old days when we were together; me as a young kid being accompanied to a lot of beautiful places by my grandmother, and giving me all the sweets that I want (and needed hehe). I didn't remember these things when she was still living.
I started to feel the love and care she had for me whenever she was with me, and how she yelled at me not to go out because she wanted to protect me from the evil people in society (especially since we live in Metro Manila). I was trying to act tough but she was there to caution me and her advice, usually was good advice.
You see, my grandmother left a mark in me. She might have done more bad and rude things to me, but indeed, she left a mark. Her actions might have been misinterpreted and misunderstood by me and a lot of people, but one thing is for sure, she left her mark on me and the people with whom she interacted with, and that only means one thing - I will never forget her. And no, we didn't spend a lot of time together when she was actually living.
On the other hand, my grandfather was a very good man, and I didn't remember any bad trait/quality from him, but we never had any interaction whether good or bad. I don't remember a lot about him, and I certainly know I miss him, but only a little. In short, he didn't leave a mark on me.
Our Purpose in Life
And that's what we should do in life, to society, to this world and in the history books. We were put in this world to leave a mark on it. We're not going to leave without carving our mark in this world. We were sent here to BE SOMEBODY.
You see, there's only one thing worse than taking bad action, and that is, taking worse action. I'm just kidding hehe. The ONE THING WORSE THAN TAKING BAD ACTION IS NOT TAKING ACTION AT ALL.
It's Not the Materials, It's the Application
You see, a lot of people here in the seduction community read a lot of ebooks and books about how to be more attractive and interesting, how to pick up hot women, how to seduce girls, how to be successful in life, how to earn money, how to win friends and influence others, etc. We watch movies and youtube instructional videos. We listen to lots of audiobooks and other materials.
Then a year goes by with you still doing these same things and having a lot of knowledge... but then you take an honest look at yourself in the mirror and reflect truthfully... realizing that not much had change, as if you're still looking at yourself from 1, 2 or even 5 years ago!
And then you ask yourself...? "What did I do to deserve this?" Then you'll see me appear in the mirror, responding with "NOTHING! That's what! YOU DID NOTHING!! And that's why you're still nowhere better than yourself a year before!!!"
You always have to remember, all of this knowledge and materials turn into crap and become useless (literally too - "no use" means not using it? DUH) once you start doing nothing. I'd rather applaud and give credit to a person with only a little knowledge, but who took action, even if his action was bad and apparently took him nowhere near a successful path; than a person who, regardless of how much knowledge he has, did nothing. That person who took bad action, will infinitely have more opportunities than the "no-action" person in the long run, and most definitely, he will leave a mark.
Why We are Afraid to Take Action
We are afraid to take action because we are afraid of being faulted, being ridiculed, humiliated, or even carrying responsibility. We are afraid of risks, because we always want to be certain about the outcome, and if it's not... we fear it. We just look for others to take the initiative and just watch this guy take action... so we will be the ones to laugh at him, ridicule him, or even blame him when he fails. That's typical spectator attitude.
Sometimes we think we aren't ready because we feel we don't have the perfect information yet. Sometimes we are afraid of the consequences of our own decisions... yet sometimes we are even afraid of our own strengths, capabilities, and ultimately our own success. You may not know it, but you might fall under the last category.
Guess what, it doesn't matter whether you fail, get rejected or even get embarrassed. What matters is you become stronger every time you take action. Yes, taking action makes you stronger, corollarily, not taking action makes you weaker. Of course, that necessarily implies having reflected each time on your action after you took it, so that you may learn from it.
Instead of fearing the consequences of your action, fear more the consequences of your inaction. To illustrate in a simple mathematical formula, this should be happening in your mind:
FEAR OF THE CONSEQUENCES OF INACTION > FEAR OF THE CONSEQUENCES OF BAD ACTION
If you fear being a fool for taking such action, always remember the old and wise adage - "Better a fool for a minute, than a fool forever."
Nobody remembers a quiet, no-action person. Everybody remembers the action star. Be an action star. Tell the world...
"I, (YOUR NAME), WAS HERE!!!!"
Don't be afraid to take action and leave your mark on this universe.